The lessons behind perfectionism

The lessons behind perfectionism

by Eunice Chua 05 Dec 2018

Perfectionist? Yes. Proud of it? No. Most self-aware perfectionists are embarrassed or even ashamed of their nature. Perfectionists are often too harsh on themselves and others. While excessive perfectionism is in no way good for our mental health, it can provide some interesting insights into our spirituality.


1. Perfectionist desires may be a sign of destiny calling

Too often, perfectionists get blamed for attempting to achieve perfection or being a try-hard. But when the urge to deliver flawlessness is especially compelling, it could be a hint that something important is at hand. This pull could be your destiny calling, so you might want to consider just going along with it.


2. Perfectionism is a reset button for tough times

The impossibility of perfectionism forces us to leave our positions of comfort and hit rock bottom – for a good reason. Often, perfectionists find themselves stuck in a phase where they can’t achieve what they want, and this leads to distress and a breakdown. Going from the ground up gives us a chance to rethink everything and see things in a different light, much like how a reset button provides a clean slate. More often than not, we bounce back stronger from these failures and emerge a better version of ourselves.


3. Perfectionism can train mindfulness

Because a perfectionist's mindset affects everything we do, it can also push us to practice mindfulness more regularly. The road to recovery from perfectionism involves identifying when such urges start to kick in, and you can’t maintain such high standards of self-awareness without being mindful of yourself.


4. Overcoming a perfectionist nature will unlock greater growth

Challenges exist in our lives to enable us to grow and this includes internal weaknesses. It may seem impossible to overcome your own nature, but once you break down the door of perfectionism, there’s a world of wisdom to be gained on the other side.


Even though you’re trying to overcome your perfectionist nature, ultimately it’s important to acknowledge that being a stickler for excellence helps you visualise yourself at your maximum potential. The key is to work towards that without the unreasonable demands that come with being a perfectionist. Slowly let go of the need to be perfect, but don’t miss out on the valuable lessons you’ll catch along the way!