With 2019 just around the corner, it’s just about that time when one starts to think of making new year resolutions again. These goals are fun to set but often hard to achieve. Take a minute to reflect on the resolutions you had for 2018. Will any of them be making a repeat entry on next year’s list? If the answer is an emphatic “yes”, then it might be time to start thinking about how to make this new year the one where you strike those will and will-nots off your list!
Statements of promise are so last year. If you want to hit your goals, frame those resolutions as questions. Research has found that the people who actually succeeded in achieving their goals didn’t promise to change their lifestyle the way most people did. Instead, they asked themselves what they could achieve and how. For example, instead of going “I will lose weight”, successful resolution-achievers questioned how much weight they could lose or how they would go about losing this weight.
Why do “reso-questions” help you succeed?
Asking yourself questions instead of making promises to yourself doesn’t sound like it would amount to a big difference, but they’re way more effective for a couple of reasons. Firstly, asking questions provokes your brain into subconsciously thinking of creative solutions to solve the problem. Furthermore, questions help to streamline the goal and make it more feasible and manageable. A resolution like losing weight often ends in failure because it’s just way too abstract and scary – you have no idea how to get there and it’s hard to find motivation when the target seems so far away. Self-questioning helps you define the pathway to attaining your goal, and that makes all the difference! Yet another reason why questions work better than promises could be that questioning creates a feeling of obligation to follow through.
Other tips for making your “reso-questions” work
Changing your resolutions to questions isn’t going to magically make them work! You still have to do the work but you can make it easier on yourself by decreasing the number of resolutions you set out to achieve. Quality trumps quantity, so focus on a few meaningful, achievable goals rather than vague, unfeasible ones. Many people have found that keeping a diary helps them stay on track because diaries provide a tangible outlet for self-evaluation. The journey to achieving your new year resolutions doesn’t have to be a solitary one though; it’s perfectly fine to share these goals with a buddy who can motivate you to stay focused. Some social support can give you the motivational boost you need to go all the way!
We are in the last week of 2018 and it’s the perfect time to truly reflect on what we can do better in the coming year. Before the year ends, take some time to draw out meaningful “reso-questions” and let 2019 be the year to accomplish the goals that you’ve always wanted to achieve!