Turning a mid-life crisis around

Turning a mid-life crisis around

by Pamela Ng 15 Feb 2020

Have you ever gone through life like everyone else, only to stop and wonder what your life’s purpose is? Or perhaps an incident took place which changed your perspective on life forever? Mid-life crises affects everyone, both men and women. While it may be a common occurrence, it’s nothing to shy away from. In fact, it can be a useful catalyst for implementing some positive changes in your lifestyle!


A picture of a mid-life crisis


While the term is referred to as “mid-life”, it doesn’t only apply to older adults who are above the age of mid-30s. It can apply to those in their 40s and 50s as well. And more recently, the term “quarter-life crisis” has also been used for young adults who are still searching for their own path in life.


A mid-life crisis can arise out of nowhere. You may wake up one day and wonder about the point of having a high-paying but mundane corporate job. After all, while money is necessary, it cannot buy happiness. Life-changing events also have their way of reminding us of how fleeting life can be and how we should make every moment count.


Whatever it is, some people tend to do sudden things during a mid-life crisis, such as moving to a new country or switching to an entirely different career. Now, there’s no real need to resort to such drastic measures as long as you’re aware of what you’re facing and what it means.


Not all a bad thing


Having a mid-life crisis can be addressed by simply taking a break to pursue what you want. And that’s great! Learning new skills and going into uncharted territories can open up your mind, spruce up your own abilities and allow you to meet new people. With the accumulation of new skills and knowledge, you can pave the road ahead for a better version of yourself that you’d be happy with.


Besides the pragmatic side of things, a mid-life crisis can also help improve your relationships with your loved ones. If they haven’t been your priority before, then perhaps they should be. Talking about your feelings and informing them about your situation can help them know and understand you more. After all, communication is essential for creating closer bonds and deeper relationships.


Compromise for people around you


Encountering a change in perspective may not be all that bad. It only goes to show that you are still growing, which is good in itself. But if you do feel the need to do something big, then you need to consider your own circumstances and what it means for your loved ones.


Statistically, those who have a mid-life crisis are often adults who have already established a career and have a nice nest egg stashed away in the bank. This helps them to support any family or children they might have should they decide to go through with their plans. The situation would be more delicate if something like a change in living environment (i.e. country) is involved, so it is important to consider the decision carefully and approach it with more tact.


A mid-life crisis can be an opportunity for you to grow. Instead of lamenting the uncertainty, see it as an opportunity to find yourself and your life’s purpose, bringing you one step closer to happiness. That being said, this period of time shouldn’t be all about you. You need to consider the thoughts and feelings of your loved ones as well as your own. There is no point in coming out of a mid-life crisis if it ends with your relationships being broken beyond repair.