Turning a workplace feud around

Turning a workplace feud around

by Pamela Ng 07 Jan 2020

Many of our daily hours are spent in the office or with people we work with, and sometimes, people can have a greater influence in determining our moods rather than the work itself. Everyone wants a friendly working environment, but what happens when a working relationship between you and someone else sours? 


1. Ask to talk

Talking to an offending individual can be awkward, but it has to be done. Instead of ambushing someone at the water fountain confrontation-style, invite them to grab a coffee or a quick bite so that the both of you are outside the workplace arena. This will provide a more relaxing atmosphere that can work towards making things more cordial between both parties for a more productive talk.


2. Admit your shortcomings

Before you go and confront someone else about their failings, consider if you’re really that perfect yourself. The last thing you want in a talk is to act all high-and-mighty and be thought as “a pot calling the kettle black”. Not only is it a bad look for you, but it also says a lot about you as a person. Don’t be afraid or ashamed to admit to your shortcomings because everyone has them -  to err is only human. By recognising your faults, you’ll find that there’s no point in being overly critical or sensitive about the mistakes of others.


3. Open up

In the workplace, your shyness will have to take a back seat if you want your side of the story to be heard. Even if you are an introverted person by nature, you need to put in some measure of effort if you want things to improve. You don’t have to become a chatterbox – simply join in a conversation and listen. Participate in team-bonding activities, otherwise you may come off as someone who simply doesn’t care. And when you speak or contribute, do it in a genuine and kind manner. Most of the time, people will sense your good intentions and you will have an easier time mending potentially broken working relationships.


Being able to rescue a failing relationship in the workplace is not only good for you as a person, but can also do wonders for your productivity and motivation. It makes you less fearful about going to work and also improves team cohesion. Take the high road not just for your own sake but for your future as well.